Condolence Words | Support For The Bereaved

Condolence words | Sympathy Poems | Remembrance

324 days

by Dave in Condolence words

How Condolence Words in the Form of Sympathy Poems Can Help During Times of Grief.

Generally, when a loved one passes away it can seem like the world has ended for those left behind. During this time, the mourning and grief felt can be so intense as to make the bereaved person feel like as if they are sinking in quicksand. This is why people who may struggle to find the right condolence words might be more comfortable giving the bereaved family sympathy poems that are filled with hope, faith and positive thoughts to help dispel sadness and lift spirits. This poetry, if targeted in the right way, can begin to help to remove the dark clouds of loss and grief so that the family can start to rise above the massive feeling of isolation and in time hopefully begin to feel that they can start to adapt to their severely changed circumstances. The importance of the right condolence words can not be over emphasised in my opinion and remembrance poems are definitely one way of helping to fill that void that the bereaved person is feeling.

Loss and grieving will be two obstacles that people have to face and experience after a loved one passes away. This person could be a child, spouse, family member, close friend or even a good neighbour. In fact, this could even be a role model like a famous actor who you have admired for having a good character, faithful marriage, family life and a good humour. However, death will hits much harder when it’s someone who is really close to the person concerned.

What Sort of Condolence Words Should Be Included?

Ideally, the key words in a grief poem would be expressing hope that would look forward to new and a better life, something like a transformation of life after death. Obviously all faiths see things in slightly different ways but there is a general thread of expectation that the deceased will be going on to something better which in some part is a comfort for those left behind.

However, in many ways, that comfort is blunted by the realisation that for them life goes on and the changes that need to be made are all to apparent by the gap left by the person who has died. Therefore, condolence words, remembrance poems, bereavement poems, funeral poems or whatever they might be called should in some way carry a positive message of hope for those that remain. Although a simple poem giving a message of hope for the future is probably all the amount of condolence words required at this difficult time, choosing the right words can potentially increase the level of stress already being felt. Therefore having a resource at hand for these difficult times is definitely a wise decision and there is a book that I believe may well be just what you need. It is called “Do Not Stand at My Grave and Weep” and contains over 250 pieces of poetry that should enable you to find just the right thing to write or say at what can be the most difficult of times.

So if you feel that should the time come when you need to write the perfect set of condolence words but don’t want to be left wondering what to say then Click Here to visit the official Do Not Stand at My Grave and Weep, Condolence Words, Website and grab yourself a copy today.

Feel free to listen to the following hymn. Possibly the greatest condolence words ever written in my humble opinion

Click Here to visit the official Do Not Stand at My Grave and Weep, Condolence Words, Website

Seven Stages of Grief | If There’s Anything I Can Do.

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by Dave in Seven Stages of Grief

Seven Stages of Grief. Why it’s important to take them into account

For those of you that don’t fully understand or even know about the seven stages of grief, when you have a close friend or family who is grieving, it can be difficult for you to offer bereavement support because you feel that you may make the situation worse. It is common for people to feel unsure, awkward and helpless during this time and depending on which of the seven stages of grief the bereaved person is at can be a minefield for someone trying to offer the right type of support. Below there are a few practical pieces of advice to help someone support the bereaved during the different seven stages of grief.

Click Here: For practical Information on how to support your bereaved relatives and friends

Although you cannot take away any of the pain, you could provide the support and comfort that they will need from compassionate friends. There are lots of ways that you could help a family member or friend who is grieving, starting with showing this person that you care.

When someone is faced with the death of a loved one, this would be one of the most difficult experiences that they will have to deal with in life. The bereaved will struggle with frightening and intense emotions such as anger, guilt and depression. Quite often, they will feel alone and isolated in their grief, so they will need a shoulder to lean on throughout the grieving process.

You should not allow discomfort to stop you from reaching out, because your support will be needed more than ever. Even though you might not know the right thing to do or say, this will be okay because you don’t have to give advice or answers. All that you are required to do is be there for them during the grieving process, because caring and support can help with the pain and start the healing.

So What Are The Seven Stages of Grief? Understanding the process of bereavement

When you have a good understanding about grief and the way how it can be healed, this will better equip you to help your friend or family member. Just remember that there is no wrong or right way to grieve, because this will not always occur in predictable and orderly stages. This could be like an emotional roller coaster with unstable setbacks, highs and lows. A grieving person might shout to the heavens, lash out at their loved one, fixate on the death or cry for long hours.

Here are those seven stages

1. Shock and denial

2. Pain and guilt

3. Anger and bargaining

4. Depression, loneliness, reflection

5. An upward turn

6. Working through reconstruction

7. Acceptance and hope

Of course, you will feel awkward whenever you are trying to comfort and support someone during their time of grief. The best thing to do is acknowledge their situation; show concern; be genuine during conversations without hiding your feelings and give support. Don’t assume that you know how someone is feeling on any given day, it’s always best to ask.

A Resource of Practical Advice To Help Through The Most Difficult of Times

All I have given here is some pointers to how to support someone going through the grieving process. For a great deal more practical advice I would like to point you in the direction of a very handy guide titled “If There’s Anything I Can Do” Advice such as the following

writing a condolence letter when someone loses a loved one
how to offer help without causing offence
how to really listen to your bereaved friend
helping with children and teenagers
helping with a mountain of paperwork that bereavement brings
being there for the long haul

and many more invaluable words of wisdom to make the process of the seven stages of grief no more traumatic than it will inevitably be.

Click here to visit the official site of “If There’s Anything I Can Do” for more information

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Delivering a Great Eulogy Speech | Funeral Speech Advice

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by Dave in Eulogy Speech

The Fundamentals of a Eulogy Speech

In simple terms a eulogy speech is an expression of praise given in memory of someone who has died, which is usually delivered at a funeral or memorial service. That doesn’t even begin to scratch the surface of how important a eulogy is in providing respect to the departed and comfort to the bereaved. Having been to a number of funerals over the years I have witnessed all types of eulogies and the ones that have stuck with me most are those that were the highest quality eulogy speech which incorporated respectful humour and created a feeling of warmth within those that had come to pay their respects. Also, equally memorable was one eulogy speech that was so bad and inaccurate I had to question if I was actually at the right funeral!

In my experience people will always forgive nerves that result in hesitancy but will not be so magnanimous if what is said is inaccurate and paints a different picture of the person they knew. That is not to say that people won’t welcome pieces of information from the person’s life that was not widely known.

What Makes For The Perfect Eulogy Speech

Generally, in my honest opinion, the greatest eulogy speeches have come from those who have a personal connection with the individual concerned, regardless of their ability or experience of speaking in public.

One of the most moving moments at my father’s funeral back in 1990 was the eulogy speech given by his best friend of many years when he started to shed a tear during his speech. That one single moment showed the love and respect he had for my father and created a great deal of pride for myself and family. He included so many happy memories including one or two slightly controversial ones, however that was expected as they had been navy colleagues, say no more! He managed to include all the constituent parts of what goes to make a great funeral speech which were:

Introduction
Early life
Schooling and work
Marriage and relationships
Hobbies and service
Memories (this part was particularly memorable)
Closing . This is where he started to break down

Everyone left feeling they knew my father just that little bit better and liked & respected him just a little bit more. Job done!

To this day I regret that I didn’t request a copy of that wonderful eulogy and will make sure that if ever I am asked to do something similar in the future I will have copies available should anyone feel that my musings are worthy of future attention.

Simple things, such as a copy of the eulogy speech to hand out can help to make what is overall a very sad occasion one that people can at least take away positive memories. Therefore I think it is wise to have a resource available that makes the whole process just that little bit easier and less stressful. There is a book that has been written to make the whole process easier and has received many positive comments about what a handy resource it is to have at what is a particularly demanding time, not withstanding speaking in front of many potentially very upset family, friends and relatives.

For Your Eulogy Speech, A Recommended Resource

For something as important as delivering a eulogy speech it is advisable to have some sort of guide to help you on your way and “How to Write and Deliver a Great Eulogy in 6 Simple Steps” by Kevin Burch may well be just the resource you need. It contains a wealth of practical advice for researching, writing and finally presenting the perfect eulogy speech including 27 poems and 71 quotes, which anyone can leverage and thereby make the whole process easier.

Click here to visit the official site of “How To Write and Deliver a Great Eulogy in 6 Simple Steps

As I mentioned earlier my personal preference is for a eulogy to have a slight hint of irreverence and added humour, but each to their own. I hope my site has helped you in some way and at least given you a small insight into how you can deliver the perfect eulogy speech. I’d like to finish by giving you the opportunity to leave my site with a smile on your face. Eulogies come in all shapes and sizes but I reckon this one particular eulogy speech is definitely unique.